We'd been drinking beer and talking story for about an hour, and I was wondering what the heck his previous roomie had found so objectionable about him. If you don't mind that - I'll fill out the paperwork."įriday night, after hours of studying, I was sitting with my new roommate, Tim, on the bottom half of a bunk bed, which doubled as the couch in our cramped narrow dorm room. My RA narrowed his eyes, studying me, and then shrugged. You catch my drift?"īeing a naïve kid from a hick town, I totally missed his meaning. His first roommate requested a transfer out, which is why there's this opening." "We've got an opening in a real quiet dorm, Harry. My Resident Assistant said this would be difficult, since all the dorm rooms in the men's complex were occupied, but a few days later, on a Wednesday, he called me into his room.
It was almost impossible to study in the rowdy, hard-partying dorm I started out in - I needed a quieter dorm, and a roommate without an electric guitar and a well-used bong.
Most of the time, your inner voice is going to be right.Late in the first semester of my freshman year at college, I decided I needed a new dorm roommate. On the flip side, should you decide against getting with him, don’t question your convictions. That’s kind of nice on cold winter nights, right? Now you’ll have a built-in f-buddy for the school year. If you do end up draining his main and things are cool in the days that follow, that’s totally awesome. Make sure you’ve thought it all out and play that mental tape I mentioned earlier. Maybe I’m wrong – who knows?Īnyway, Jimmy, I encourage you to carefully consider hooking up with your jock bunkmate. Call me old school but I just think it’s only fair to want that. He didn’t want to reflect back what I was doing to him (AKA oral). In my case, I did end up messing around with him. Later, I would find out that he was closeted and that all of his trash talking about the women he had f-– was a bunch of BS. Like your roommate, I figured him as straight. The guy who lived down the hall from me started showing interest. This happens when we start crushing on men who can’t provide us with what we need (if that makes sense).įor what it is worth, I had something similar happen to me when I was in college. The reason is that sometimes, gay men end up falling for guys who are emotionally unavailable. One, if you do go down on him, will he take this as a green light for more activities in the future? Will things escalate?Īdditionally, what are your expectations here? In other words, do you want him to reciprocate? If yes, what if that’s not something he’s willing to do? Are you OK with merely giving him bro-jobs at his beckon call?įinally, is there a part of you who has feelings for him? I’m not saying you do. Here are a few other things to consider as part of the dynamic. On the other hand, if you feel he’ll be cool with it, then why not enjoy? If you aren’t sure, that could be an indication that maybe, hooking up with him isn’t a smart move.
In other words, based on your own experiences of your roomie thus far, how do you think he’ll act afterward? What may be helpful is to fast-forward your mental tape and play things out. But you’ll also read about guys who would never “feed of the seed” of a “straight” roommate. If you look around this website, you’ll find all sorts of stories about things going splendidly with curious men. The truth is things could go either way, meaning bad or good. Much depends on this guy’s emotional makeup and mental maturity. Here’s the thing Jimmy, there’s no right or wrong answer. The essential question for you is, should I sleep with him? At the end of the day, it’s kind of a moot point because he’s obviously interested. I couldn’t tell you if your roomie is gay, bi or simply curious. It doesn’t get any more direct than “go for it”, does it? Well, that and because the guy all but told you to service him. We know this because he’s getting an erection while wrestling with you. Moreover, your roomie also appears to be attracted to you. So, in reading your post, my sense is you are really attracted to him. From the sound of it, your roommate is the stuff of “lick and yum” as some folks like to say around here. I can imagine this whole thing has been difficult for you. Well, either relate to or fantasize about. It sounds like you are in a situation that a lot of guys who visit this blog can relate to. But I’m afraid it could get weird afterward. It’s not like I don’t want to because I totally do. When I pointed this out to him, he looked at me and said, “You know you want to suck it.” When I joked back and told him I would, he replied, “Go for it!” The last time it happened, I could feel his stiffy through his sweats. On three separate occasions, we’ve gotten into wrestling matches.